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My husband is having an affair written by Jan on Sunday evening By jan June 30th, 2008 at 12:32 pm

I feel like my husband has been having an affair for the last six months.

He has been conducting secret telephone calls in a way that women always know is leading to something. He has been constantly emailing elusive and mysterious people to set up endless rendezvous in exotic locations throughout the world. Do not underestimate the amount of time, energy and effort my husband has spent in nurturing this affair. He has investigated, researched and collected every conceivable gadget the 21st century can offer him to ensure that the whole world knows about his new fancy.

What makes it even worse is he has seduced my young and impressionable nineteen year old son to accompany him on this wild affair.

This obsession my husband has been having has left me with a concoction of emotions. I have felt alienated and anxious because I am no longer the bastion of his life … the brick, the grounding force that has always brought him back to earth. I have felt insanely jealous because he is going to conduct this deliberate and premeditated affair in such glamorous and bizarre locations throughout the world.

And now I just feel plain abandoned, dumped and gilted. This morning at 6.20 a.m. pn Sunday morning he decided he was going to consummate the affair he has lusted after for many years. He packed his bags and left …. well, he did have to wait around for a few extra minutes while Jack downloaded the last cd onto his ipod.

To look on the brighter side he has left me with the house and its contents, cheque book, his dog …. and has been so distracted he has even left me to determine the future of the contents of his shed …. his cars and his crap!!!

And just maybe my nineteen year old son is not so gullible. Perhaps he can ultimately persuade his father to see this phase as a temporary-mid-life-crisis-thing and in six months time he will convince him to return home to dodder into old age with me.

Jon and Jack, I miss you already and you have only been gone for ten hours.

Whilst there have been, and still are, multiple negative thoughts rushing through my poor befuddled brain I mostly feel ecstatically happy for you both. I know that you keep each other alert mentally and spiritually. Jack, you will probably even be able to persuade Jon to keep fit and healthy. I know the remarkable bond you have both developed will only strengthen.

Aaagh, and when I start sounding a bit prophetic (pathetic) it is obviously time to say … Goodnight.

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24 comments to “My husband is having an affair written by Jan on Sunday evening”

  1. By helen B June 30th, 2008 at 12:55 pm

    Dear Jan

    Your emotions say it all. Just know how hard it must be for you. It must feel like the loss of loved two.

    Have lost loved ones, my partner is a musician who spents all his time having the affair with that genre.
    Albeit not the same scenario, can feel for you.
    BEST WISHES, Keep your strength.Know you are thought about.
    Helen

  2. By Cheryl Hammill June 30th, 2008 at 1:48 pm

    Dear Jan,

    I have met you and have been thinking to myself - whilst not saying anything to you - how much I admire and applaud your selflessness and generosity of spirit in encouraging your two men to go and explore the world together.

    What a terrific family unit you are - would imagine that Paris can’t come quickly enough and just know that there are many many people thinking of you also, whilst they follow the adventurers.

    Cheryl

  3. By Shane D June 30th, 2008 at 3:24 pm

    Your post made me all teary Jan. Really looking forward to reading Jon’s posts, miss him on 774 already.

  4. By greg June 30th, 2008 at 5:09 pm

    you have the cheque book what else do you require?

  5. By JanW Berwick June 30th, 2008 at 5:53 pm

    Jan, that he left you the cars and the shed just shows how much Jon trusts and loves you. All his listeners know about his other love affair with those — ahem — mechanical thingamebobs. Now’s your chance!!

    Seriously though, keep your chin up. And it’s alright to miss two of your boys. I feel a bit concerned for Nigel, though, being the one left. [that was meant as a joke]

  6. By Vicki June 30th, 2008 at 6:32 pm

    Jan X:-) *Hugs* Vicki (774 listener)

  7. By jane brenner June 30th, 2008 at 6:44 pm

    Jan, You made me laugh and you made me cry. Your writing is just beautiful.

    We know now where your son got his writing skills from.

    Shame you aren’t going on the trip so we could here more from you.

  8. By Jenny June 30th, 2008 at 8:01 pm

    Jan, I am hoping we will hear from you throughout the trip… it will add to the tale if we can read your perspective (we might get the real story!).

    I am really looking forward to tracking this adventure. Cheers, Jenny (774 listener)

  9. By Evelyn June 30th, 2008 at 9:14 pm

    Jan, how generous of you to be happy about two of your men having such a wonderful adventure. Please keep up your writing. Will be of interest to all as well as the travellers’ tales will be. (774 listener)

  10. By Anna-Marie June 30th, 2008 at 9:23 pm

    Thanks so much for sharing this with us, Jan, Jon, Jack (and the rest of your friends and family). I feel a bit like I’m listening in on someone else’s phone call but it’s really fascinating! I’m really amazed by the courage of each of you for undertaking such an amazing trip (not the least of which is *your* courage, Jan. I miss my beloved when he goes and plays a game of golf!) I hope we ‘eavesdroppers’ don’t intrude too much on this times of your lives and, please, just know that there are so many people who really care about the wellbeing of all the Faines.

  11. By warrick July 1st, 2008 at 12:02 am

    Jan, you are fortunate to have such understanding of your husband and his adventurous spirit. Jon is equally fortunate for the same reason.
    you are to be admired in your attitude to the emotional growth of your son, Jack and his father.
    our reunion in Paris will be your reward.
    Stay positive and know that the loyal 774 listeners are thinking of you all.

    warrick

  12. By Lucien July 1st, 2008 at 9:10 am

    1. What happened to your (new) rabbit - who is looking after that - our “Petee” wants to know?

    2. Just do what all the ladies around here do - just meet for coffee, champagne, lunch and dinner and enjoy it while you can - although you may need to join the “correct” ladies groups, and

    3) How far have “The Men” got up the road?

  13. By Phillip July 1st, 2008 at 11:38 am

    Hmmm.,
    Heterosexual partners can be so pathetic at times…
    Some suggestions:
    Listen to Helen Ready CD’s with some fine wine…you are strong…you are women etc etc…
    Have a dachary party with some trusted female friends with DVD’s of ‘Sex in the City’ in the background, then go terrorise the town in the company of your strusted friends…
    Smoke a …. and watch some gay porn.
    Have solice with the fact that when the quest has been completed Jon will owe you big time.

  14. By Tadeusz July 1st, 2008 at 12:07 pm

    Dear Jan,

    Smile and don’t be down hearted. In a week you’ll have settled into the new routine and enjoying your new found freedom. It really would be a hoot if Jon’s electronic gadget’s repeatedly fail along the way making him totally reliant on you for his website communication. He’ll have a nervy turn if he can’t tell everyone what he’s doing, after all, that’s what this website is all about. On a more serious note, I am dismayed you don’t treasure his collection of old wrecks and other assorted crap - your word. You should appreciate your beloved husband’s finely tuned tast in rare artifacts, especially the Goddess! The female spouse should appreciate how her husband’s collection of old rubbish reinforces the marriage by giving her time to herself, while his attention is diverted elsewhere, surely, what every feminist truely desires. This journey with Jack will be the best bonding experience they can ever have. Enjoy your freedom and their adventure while it lasts. I’ll be watching their progress with eager anticipation.

    Cheers,

    Tadeusz

  15. By Hally July 1st, 2008 at 1:04 pm

    Jan you are to be congratulated for your understanding and unselfish attitude towards this trip. I am sure we will all enjoy reading this blog from your perspective.
    Keep focused on Paris and London! What a wonderful way to spend Christmas and see in the New Year :-)
    Meanwhile, why not go just a little wild with the cheque book and treat yourself ;-)

  16. By ilana July 1st, 2008 at 2:38 pm

    Hi Jan,
    I am one of Jon’s many fans, and I’m already missing him too! What a wonderful opportunity for an exceptional father and son experience. Your generosity in facilitating this is much admired, and was so strongly acknowledged by Jon on his farewell show on Friday.
    It’s so interesting to read your blogs, and I look forward to reading about how you’re doing as well as Jon’s updates.
    I hope you enjoy your “break” too, and I wish them a safe and wonderful adventure. I look forward to tracking the Faine family journey.

  17. By Matt July 3rd, 2008 at 12:53 am

    Hi Jan,
    remember Darryl Kerrigan, Towtruck driver from Coolaroo in “The Castle”:
    “You’ve got to have a passion for something…”

  18. By Maree July 3rd, 2008 at 10:33 am

    Dear Jan
    I am a fan of Jon’s and actually was at uni at the same time he was although I didn’t know him.

    Hope all goes well and they get going again.

  19. By Bob July 3rd, 2008 at 1:09 pm

    Such an emotional response Jan I’ve shed a tear.

    I too will miss Jon but I’m looking forward so much to sharing his and Jack’s adventure. It’s a journey that I looked at myself many years ago, but to my regret didn’t pursue.

    I wish you well in their absence - just imagine the reunion!!

  20. By maureen July 4th, 2008 at 12:20 pm

    Jan, I miss you. The small urban blocks between us have become impenetrable terrain over the past three days. Whereas once I could hold your attention for at least five minutes, in recent days your gaze is diverted elsewhere. (Why am I complaining?) Every conversation is “Jack and Jon this, and Jack and Jon that”. I can’t do anything without the inevitable; “Jon wouldn’t do it like that or Jack’s so much better” You’re constantly focussed on the middle distance (a little bit north perhaps; a bit to the left . . . that’s it). Leaping to the regular brrrrrps from the satellite-walky-talky-gizmometer, and weeping to the crackling call of those bearded wildermen you once called family. Face it Jan, who are your family now? Who are the loyal minions that have stayed by your side; who Jan, is keeping the home fires burning now? Mmmm? Is it Jon, I don’t think so. Jack? Ah ah.

  21. By John R July 4th, 2008 at 5:01 pm

    Jan, they are very lucky men - and Jack in particular will thrive on the adventure.

    Best wishes …

  22. By Cheryl from Hawthorn July 5th, 2008 at 11:38 am

    Jan
    Just keeping on share them with us, please and look foward to Paris.
    Cheryl

  23. By Jen July 5th, 2008 at 11:43 pm

    Jan I think you are just bloody marvellous and thank you for your imput into the blog. I am sure that you will have your own kind of fun whilst they are away and that you have many things to keep you occupied, apart from the clearing out of Jon’s shed - or like me, are you not really game to!!!!!!!!!!!! Know how you must be feeling, been there done that only not for the same reason, family illness and subsequent death over in UK, felt absolutely helpless.
    Take care
    Jen

  24. By Geoffo July 6th, 2008 at 1:20 pm

    Yes, Jan, put all that old Citroen stuff on eBay. I’ll be a bidder …

    You might even get something for the collection of antique hockey sticks!

    cheers
    Geoff

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